Nice guys don’t get the girls!

Haha! I can’t help it but smile when I read the Youthlink section of The Straits Times today.

<Girls, give the nice guys a chance>
“In one corner, meet exhibit A – my friend, an overseas-educated civil servant and former national sportsman with a great sense of humour. He also happens to be a perfectly decent gentleman.

Yet he is single and available, and has been for some time.”

“And the reason why they take so long to be discovered? As the ode put it:’Getting together would ruin the friendship.’”

I’m not comparing myself with exhibit A okay! I stand nowhere near him. However, I agree with the writer’s view that nice guys are left on the shelves and had been overlooked on many occasions. However, when it comes to the reasons of single hood, I beg to differ.

Had talked to Eldris about this topic as well. From his view, I’m too nice and when I’m too nice to girls I like, I tend to act “wussy” (Term he uses). Jaslyn’s term would be 娘. And that’s the main reason he say that’s why I’m single. He said that I need to be more 坏 then can get the girls.

I can see some truth in that. However, sometimes things aren’t that easy to change. We are talking about personality leh! Can probably act out what others would like to see. (I want to be a cool jap actor, remember?) However, for acting, you only immense yourself during the set. Once out of it, you can smile and laugh all you want! If I want to do that in real life, wouldn’t it means changing my lifestyle. Even if I manage to succeed in getting the girl, that won’t be me anymore but just a character I’m portraying right?

Okay, that was some points for thought. Shall prepare for tennis! (=